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Avoidance

By Regina Rowley | May 7, 2014

As I was reading through Rory Miller’s Facing Violence I found many important concepts I would like to share. His book addresses social violence and predator violence. Our focus will be on predator violence since we, as women, are more likely to be targeted by a predator. Absence is the number one way to avoid a predator. It makes since, […]

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Two Types of Predators

By Regina Rowley | April 20, 2014

I was browsing through my new book Facing Violence by Rory Miller. He clarifies the difference in predators. I hope the following information helps you better understand those differences and how serious they are. Resource Predator: The resource predator will use violence to take your money, valuables, car, etc. Typically he only threatens violence, but will use it if deemed […]

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The Cycle of Abuse

By Regina Rowley | April 7, 2014

Abuse Occurs —> Reconciliation/Makeup —> Calm —> Tension Building Abuse can be any and/or all of the following: Physical, Sexual, Emotional, Psychological During the reconciliation phase the abuser may apologize, promise it won’t happen again; blames the victim claiming you provoked the abuse; gives gifts of repentance. After the explosion and reconciliation, it is common for […]

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Domestic Violence and Pregnancy

By Regina Rowley | March 27, 2014

It can be easy to stand on the sidelines and critique why a woman stays with her abuser. What many don’t understand is the variety of complex reasons she does. Like everything else in life, you have to walk in those shoes. There are economic pressures as abusers often control the finances. Being pregnant, she […]

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Domestic Violence and Pregnancy

By Regina Rowley | March 8, 2014

Pregnancy is the wondrous time in a woman’s life when she is privileged to nurture new life. She glows with excitement as the weeks pass. The anticipation of meeting her little angel face fills her with joy. Each new kick brings joy and trepidation. There are books to read, support groups to join and a […]

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Never answer the door to strangers…

By Regina Rowley | February 20, 2014

Never answer the door to strangers. Keeping the door locked, ask the person to identify him/herself. If you have no scheduled appointment with this person, do not open the door. I can’t emphasize this enough! Just this week my doorbell rang at 7:30pm. It was already dark. I wasn’t expecting anyone. Perhaps it really was an innocent […]

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Facing Fears – Breaking Free

By Regina Rowley | February 8, 2014

Life’s journey is full of crossroads, minor dips and major valleys along with hill tops and mountain peaks. While participating in my Level 4 Smart Safe certification bootcamp my emotions went through a roller coaster ride of dips, turns, twists and that slow climb to the top as I revisited the reason I do what I do. My heart […]

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10 Simple Safety Tips

By Regina Rowley | January 20, 2014

Are you running from one holiday event to another? Do you need to squeeze in just one more quick stop at the store? Maybe you are going about your everyday routine. Whatever the day may bring, implement these simple safety tips. Awareness and prevention are key to your safety! Analyze possible attack locations from a technical perspective. Think like a “bad guy”. Do not […]

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WIN! Real Life Skills for Kids

By Regina Rowley | January 8, 2014

What an awe inspiring experience WIN! Real Life SKills for Kids has been. I always consider it a privilege to learn from Moni Aizik and his Elite Instructors. As Andrew was covering the instructional material I couldn’t help but think, WOW! Moni did it again. When a child is dealing with a bully it is […]

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I’m in Charge of my Emotions

By Regina Rowley | December 20, 2013

We waste valuable time if we allow our emotions to be in control during an attack. By putting our emotions on “hold” and dealing with the attack at hand in a factual manner, we will turn the element of surprise against the attacker and be the survivor. Emotions can be experienced “post-trauma” when we have […]

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Grabbed from Behind

By Regina Rowley | December 6, 2013

Following is a woman’s statement after being grabbed from behind, beaten, sexually assaulted and strangulation attempts. “My view of the world changed. I felt that I had no control; and at times, it seemed that the only way to regain control over my life was to end it.” Thankfully, this woman found the courage to participate […]

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What Do I Have?

By Regina Rowley | November 20, 2013

If ever in a threatening situation always ask yourself, “What Do I Have?” This leads to: What do I have on my own body: hands, teeth, legs, head, etc. What do I have access to in terms of targets on his body: weak spots: his eyes, throat, groin, etc. What do I have as a […]

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Mind Over Muscle

By Regina Rowley | November 8, 2013

I love this quote by Susan B Anthony, “I declare to you that a woman must not depend upon the protection of man, but must be taught to protect herself, and there I take my stand.”. In women’s self defense, we use knowledge to our advantage and capitalize on his weaknesses. His size or muscle […]

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Known Attackers

By Regina Rowley | November 8, 2013

89% of women who were raped or experienced an attempted rape knew their attacker. 64% of all sexual assaults occurred in the target’s or attacker’s home. Since most people interact with their acquaintances in common facilities; where they live, work, socialize, study, shop, etc., it is no surprise these attacks occur in those locations. While […]

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Recognizing Dangerous Situations

By Regina Rowley | October 8, 2013

Typically a potential attacker will put his target through a testing period. He will be assessing the circumstances and his chance of completing his plans. This will include conversation and/or an attempt to dominate the target. It is during this period that women should key in on their intuition and the attackers behavior. The situation […]

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Recognizing Potential Attackers

By Regina Rowley | September 20, 2013

Realize attackers are typically acquaintances. When we meet or actually know someone, we have an impression of them. It will range from nice person, someone I can learn from, watch out, creep, and a sense of discomfort. Trust your instincts! A negative impression is a warning from your intuition. Trust it! That person may attempt to disrespect […]

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5 More Easy Tips

By Regina Rowley | September 7, 2013

1. Victim’s thrown into car trunks should kick out the tail lights, stick an arm out and start waving like crazy, hopefully waving a red or white cloth. This can save lives. 2. When in a parking lot/garage, be aware. Look around you, under your car, inside your car at the passenger side and back […]

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5 Easy to Remember Tips

By Regina Rowley | August 20, 2013

1. Your elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough, use it! 2. If a robber demands your purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Throw it away from you. RUN LIKE CRAZY IN THE OTHER DIRECTION! 3. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, working, […]

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Symptoms of Domestic Violence

By Regina Rowley | August 7, 2013

There is no way to tell for sure if someone is experiencing domestic violence. Those who are battered, and those who abuse, come in all genders, shapes, sizes, colors, economic classes, sexual orientations and personality types. Victims are not always passive with low self-esteem, and batterers are not always violent or hateful to their partner […]

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Personalities and Victimization

By Regina Rowley | July 20, 2013

Confrontational personality, has a reputation of being hostile and aggressive. She has a chip on her shoulder and is not very sociable. She is an unlikely candidate for any type of flirting, harrassment or sexual assault. Assertive personality, has high self-esteem, confidence, and experience. She is at home in social settings and exhibits a “Don’t […]

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Unconscious Confidence

By Regina Rowley | June 20, 2013

If you don’t have the physical skills you used to, it likely means you’re even more of a target for the epidemic of random street violence escalating across the globe today. It’s the reason why this information is even more critical to you. Here’s a snippet taken from TFT Master Instructor Chris Ranck-Buhr’s recent article, […]

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Domestic Violence

By Regina Rowley | June 8, 2013

Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior perpetrated by an intimate partner against another. It is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community, regardless of age, economic status, race, religion, nationality or educational background. Violence against women is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior, and […]

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Safety Tips for Targets of Stalking, part 2

By Regina Rowley | June 20, 2012

Safety Tips for Home • Alert your friends, neighbors, and apartment building personnel about your situation. Give them as much information as you can about the stalker, including a photograph of him/her, and a description of any vehicles s/he may drive. Ask them to notify you or call the police if they see the stalker […]

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Safety Tips for Targets of Stalking, part 3

By Regina Rowley | May 27, 2012

Safety at work or school: • Alert all co-workers, schoolmates and on-site security staff about your situation. Give them as much information as you can about the stalker, including a photograph of him/her, and a description of any vehicles s/he may drive. Ask them to notify you or call the police if they see him/her. […]

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Safety Tips for Targets of Stalking

By Regina Rowley | May 20, 2012

The next several blogs will have suggestions on how to keep yourself safe if you are being stalked or harassed. Stalkers can be someone who you are/were in a relationship with, a coworker, acquaintance or even a stranger. These are general suggestions which may not be appropriate in every situation – please pick and choose […]

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Hitting the Target?

By Regina Rowley | May 6, 2012

Any skill set will improve with regular practice; typing, shooting, cooking, driving, and observation skills. As you go from one activity to another in your day, observe the people around you. Visualize what you would do if: that man on the corner grabbed your hair as you walked by; you noticed a van following you; your friend’s […]

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Ten Warning Signs of Abuse

By Regina Rowley | April 20, 2012

This post is in light of February being Teen Dating Violence Awareness month. While there are many warning signs of abuse, here are ten of the most common abusive behaviors: •Checking your cell phone or email without permission •Constantly putting you down •Acting extremely jealous or insecure •Having an explosive temper •Demanding to know where […]

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A Night of Terror

By Regina Rowley | April 7, 2012

As seen on TV’s 48 Hours Live to Tell, Adam Lane invaded a home at 4 in the morning through an unlocked door. Here’s the link to the story: http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2011/02/26/48hours/main20036509.shtml?tag=exclsv Use this opportunity to help your friends and family remember the inportance of locking their doors.  

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Safety and Social Media

By Regina Rowley | March 20, 2012

How can people find me on the Internet? It’s a good rule of thumb to assume that anything you put on the Internet could be discovered. Even if you are sure your profiles and email are safe, there are computer hackers and computer spyware that could potentially access your information. Read more about this on […]

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Smartsafe and Driving

By Regina Rowley | March 7, 2012

Something to think about… If a would be attacker(s) is following you while you’re driving what would you do? Panic? I certainly hope not! Remember, you have to out smart the attacker. Remain calm, aware and THINK. 1) Do not go home or to a loved ones home. Go to a well lit and populated, public location; […]

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Regina Rowley

Regina is an international voice enlightening and empowering women to rise above limiting beliefs, overcome fear and write their own ending as a Goddess Warrior. Whether speaking or teaching, Regina is sensitive, fun and relate-able as she shows women, they too, can tap into their inner strength, gain confidence, and replace limiting beliefs.

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Regina is an international voice enlightening and empowering women to rise above limiting beliefs, overcome fear and write their own ending as a Goddess Warrior. Whether speaking or teaching, Regina is sensitive, fun and relate-able as she shows women, they too, can tap into their inner strength, gain confidence, and replace limiting beliefs.

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