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I was browsing through my new book Facing Violence by Rory Miller. He clarifies the difference in predators. I hope the following information helps you better understand those differences and how serious they are. Resource Predator: The resource predator will use violence to take your money, valuables, car, etc. Typically he only threatens violence, but will use it if deemed […]

Abuse Occurs —> Reconciliation/Makeup —> Calm —> Tension Building Abuse can be any and/or all of the following: Physical, Sexual, Emotional, Psychological During the reconciliation phase the abuser may apologize, promise it won’t happen again; blames the victim claiming you provoked the abuse; gives gifts of repentance. After the explosion and reconciliation, it is common for […]

It can be easy to stand on the sidelines and critique why a woman stays with her abuser. What many don’t understand is the variety of complex reasons she does. Like everything else in life, you have to walk in those shoes. There are economic pressures as abusers often control the finances. Being pregnant, she […]

Pregnancy is the wondrous time in a woman’s life when she is privileged to nurture new life. She glows with excitement as the weeks pass. The anticipation of meeting her little angel face fills her with joy. Each new kick brings joy and trepidation. There are books to read, support groups to join and a […]

Never answer the door to strangers. Keeping the door locked, ask the person to identify him/herself. If you have no scheduled appointment with this person, do not open the door. I can’t emphasize this enough! Just this week my doorbell rang at 7:30pm. It was already dark. I wasn’t expecting anyone. Perhaps it really was an innocent […]

Life’s journey is full of crossroads, minor dips and major valleys along with hill tops and mountain peaks. While participating in my Level 4 Smart Safe certification bootcamp my emotions went through a roller coaster ride of dips, turns, twists and that slow climb to the top as I revisited the reason I do what I do. My heart […]

Are you running from one holiday event to another? Do you need to squeeze in just one more quick stop at the store? Maybe you are going about your everyday routine. Whatever the day may bring, implement these simple safety tips. Awareness and prevention are key to your safety! Analyze possible attack locations from a technical perspective. Think like a “bad guy”. Do not […]

What an awe inspiring experience WIN! Real Life SKills for Kids has been. I always consider it a privilege to learn from Moni Aizik and his Elite Instructors. As Andrew was covering the instructional material I couldn’t help but think, WOW! Moni did it again. When a child is dealing with a bully it is […]

We waste valuable time if we allow our emotions to be in control during an attack. By putting our emotions on “hold” and dealing with the attack at hand in a factual manner, we will turn the element of surprise against the attacker and be the survivor. Emotions can be experienced “post-trauma” when we have […]

Following is a woman’s statement after being grabbed from behind, beaten, sexually assaulted and strangulation attempts. “My view of the world changed. I felt that I had no control; and at times, it seemed that the only way to regain control over my life was to end it.” Thankfully, this woman found the courage to participate […]